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Spiritual Bypassing: When Spirituality Disconnects Us from What Really Matters
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208
Date Published
July 27, 2010
ISBN-10
1556439059
ISBN-13
9781556439056

Spiritual bypassing—the use of spiritual beliefs to avoid dealing with painful feelings, unresolved wounds, and developmental needs—is so pervasive that it goes largely unnoticed. The spiritual ideals of any tradition, whether Christian commandments or Buddhist precepts, can provide easy justification for practitioners to duck uncomfortable feelings in favor of more seemingly enlightened activity. When split off from fundamental psychological needs, such actions often do much more harm than good.

While other authors have touched on the subject, this is the first book fully devoted to spiritual bypassing. In the lineage of Chögyam Trungpa’s landmark Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism, Spiritual Bypassing provides an in-depth look at the unresolved or ignored psychological issues often masked as spirituality, including self-judgment, excessive niceness, and emotional dissociation. A  longtime psychotherapist with an engaging writing style, Masters furthers the body of psychological insight into how we use (and abuse) religion in often unconscious ways. This book will hold particular appeal for those who grew up with an unstructured new-age spirituality now looking for a more mature spiritual practice, and for anyone seeking increased self-awareness and a more robust relationship with themselves and others.

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Spiritual Bypassing: When Spirituality Disconnects Us from What Really Matters 2011-07-31 04:29:47 New Ren Books
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New Ren Books Reviewed by New Ren Books    July 31, 2011
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"Blind compassion is rooted in the belief that we are all doing the best we can. When we are driven by blind compassion, we cut everyone far too much slack, make excuses for others' behavior, and make nice in situations that require a forceful NO." ~ Robert Augustus Masters

For weeks I've been praying for the words to tastefully expose an issue that's prevalent in spiritual communities everywhere. Pulling it out from the shadows for discussion is difficult. But the strongest teachers, healers, and leaders are willing to 'say out loud' what's noticeably suppressed or uncomfortably expressed.

So, with leadership guiding the way and discomfort as my friend, shall we uncover this together?

There's a controversial book that arrived by Dr. Robert Augustus Masters called Spiritual Bypassing: How Spirituality Disconnects Us From What Really Matters. Spiritual bypassing is a term coined by psychotherapists to identify those with spiritual dedication who have become excessively nice, emotionally detached, confrontation phobic, and unable to see how they've lost touch with the world. But yet, they'll have us believe they are blissed out and doing just great.

To break free from spiritual bypassing, Masters asks that we "cease turning away from our pain, numbing ourselves, and expecting spirituality to make us feel better." He goes on to say, "True spirituality is not a high, not a rush, not an altered state. Our times call for something far more real, grounded, and responsible; something that shakes us to our very core. It calls for both light AND heat."

As someone who helps people on the spiritual path with the voice of their business, I see this all the time. We believe we are 'safe and effective' in reaching out to others with surface words like "light, peace, joy, spirit, wellness, and journey." When in reality, people have become numb to this language and are begging us to speak in more raw and direct ways.

Spiritual dedication often leads to the "shoulds." We should see the best in others. We should be less judgmental. We should be more loving. We should not react. But when we flee continuously from "less than spiritual" emotions, we can get trapped in the very practices that are meant to liberate us.

In our staff meeting today, someone mentioned how all spiritual progress comes down to "raising your consciousness." One of us replied, "What does that even mean? I don't relate to that language. In fact, it makes me irritated!" Our co-owner, Darlene, replied brilliantly. She said, "You are demonstrating right now how to raise your consciousness. It's about asking the tough questions, discussing what bothers you, and then allowing others to describe what they mean in their communication."

Now THAT is precisely why we're having this talk. So we can look inside and see how we bypass what truly needs our attention. When we take our spirituality where the sun doesn't shine, perhaps that is where peace can be found... and where peace is needed!

Spiritual Bypassing is an exceptionally well-written book that is endorsed by big-time authors such as, Jack Kornfield, Jean Houston, and Ken Wilber. Let's support (and challenge) ourselves and others who can no longer see for themselves when they are blinded by the light.
-- Erin Donley

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