January 25, 2010
This book provides an in-depth look at relationships from a psycho-spiritual perspective. Both profound and practical, the author delves into the myriad masks that ego wears in relationships, and what she calls “conditioning,” the habitual thoughts and ideas that ego operates from. She contrasts this to Essence,” the unchanging, present moment, and loving nature that transcends ego and is our true nature.
Relating through the Ego is a well-worn path for most of us, and the landscape is remarkably consistent as one of separation and relational interference. It is a spiritual paradox that we both need love and resist love; that we are both singular and whole; that we are both Essence and persona. The lessons of life and love are revealed through paradox, and choosing spiritual values, choosing to drop into our Essence, allows us to become the ideal partner—or to borrow a familiar phrase, “we become the change we wish to see…” Essence is that state of being where duality becomes Oneness, where we perceive first and foremost the divine in others, and our thoughts and actions naturally sustain meaningful relationships.
Although there are exercises and real life examples that encourage readers to move beyond ego and conditioning, this is not a “how-to” book. More so, it is a thorough exploration of the nature of being human, providing a rich deposit of understanding from which we can extract wise, loving, and conscious choices about ourselves and about being in relationship.